The issues you bring and the way we work with them are as unique as you; however, there are some common experiences many of us share:
• Career/school transitions
• Depression/Dark Night of the Soul
• Empty Nest
• Family of origin/estrangement
• Finding your soul's path
• Grief and loss
• Life stages
• Moving into the Wisdom years
• Parenting, step-parenting, grand-parenting
• Reconnecting with Nature
• School & work-related bullying
• Sexual abuse/assault
• Spiritual crisis
Sexual Abuse Survivor to Thriver
My work with adult women survivors of childhood sexual abuse and/or assault comes from both personal and professional experience. Sexual violence wounding has its own challenges in adult life such as:
• difficulty trusting self and others
• sexual shame
• intimacy blocks
• deep sense of betrayal and abandonment
• a belief that you are unlovable, even unlikable
• inability to stand up for self
• dissociation from body and emotions
• poor coping mechanisms
• conflict averse
• lack of boundaries and boundary awareness
• poor communication skills
• unacknowledged symptoms of PTSD
• holding self back from living a fully engaged life
I am living proof that healing the wounds of sexual violence is not impossible. I have been there. I have taken the journey of recovery. You have an extraordinary life to live. I am here to help you get there when you are ready.
Parenting That Feels Good
Parenting is harder than you thought it would be. You had an idea of what kind of parent you wanted to be but the reality is too far removed from that ideal for comfort. On top of that, everyone has an opinion on how you should be parenting and they're not afraid to tell you what you're doing wrong.
The truth is, being a parent is a sacred calling and you're committed to doing your best. But what does your best actually look like, how do you get there, and how do you stand strong in your convictions especially when swimming against the tide of societal norms?
What if you could turn down the volume of unsolicited advice? What if you could just put down the myriad parenting books sitting on your bedside table? What if you had a quiet, safe space to explore your fears, your hopes, your disappointments, your dark moments and your inspired achievements?
When you and I talk parenting, you will find a comforting and experienced ear. I will remind you that you are doing a good job, and that you already have all the tools and instincts you need to be the parent you want to be. We'll explore those together until you find what works best for your family.
Children 9+ and Teens
My approach when working with children and teens is to treat them with respect and wonder. They are such vital people - creative, intelligent, loving, impulsive, joyful.
Like adults, young people need someone to listen, to understand, and to validate the difficulties they are facing. Someone in their corner and who is not family. This allows for trust and openness.
I help children find their own voice, learn who they are, and feel comfortable expressing themselves. In light of this, it is vital that parents be supportive of the counselling relationship and trust in the process. A collaborative approach between client, parent(s) and me, without breaking the bonds of confidentiality, will be key to your child's progress.
You may bring your child or teen to work with me because they are displaying unwanted and challenging behaviours. My role is to find out what is at the root of this and to help them find better, more effective, ways of communicating their needs.